Bryan Reeves, relationship “Insight Ninja,” and former United States Air Force captain, opens up his journey to self-affirmation.

Rooted in childhood experiences, Bryan chose relationships based on his insecurities. He allowed his partner to hurt him which reinforced his sense of unworthiness. As a result, he existed in a world of self-doubt. It wasn’t until he saw through her abusiveness that he walked away. Although, he still sought affirmation from female attention. When he finally recognized women could not solve his pain, Bryan simply abstained from all relations. As detailed in his book, The Sex Diet.

Due to his abstinence, Bryan learned to value himself—a lesson he imparts with those seeking relationship and life counsel. Bryan also says give. Give to the world. Stop trying to get, and instead offer yourself, your talents. Come home to yourself. The rest will fall into place. 

“Man, the relationships I was in were disastrous. The ones that I chose. Again, the easy relationships? I didn’t want those man. Give me the hard shit, give me shit that’s going to break me open because I needed to learn.”— Bryan Reeves