“I want listeners, not friends” –Kera Armendariz
Fiction. Based on a True Friendship.
by Charlotte Thomas
This journal entry is inspired by true events. Some of the characters, names, businesses, incidents, and certain locations and events have been fictionalized for dramatic purposes. Any similarity to the name, character or history of any person is entirely coincidental and unintentional.
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Anyone can be a friend. Goodness knows that I’ve had people come and go in my life under the guise that they were really there for me. But what makes the mark of a true friend, a true companion, is when someone just listens. They don’t always need to even speak, but they can just be beside you while you vent and talk about nothing for hours. A true friend can see you at your worst, and not think any different of you when the storm has passed. A true friend tells you what you need to hear, maybe not always what you want to hear.
I have been blessed by the purest form of love I have had the pleasure of experiencing. The love between you, my best friend, and I. You have been the constant in my life for seven years, and you have made me a better person. You are without doubt the best thing to ever happen to me, and I am at a loss for whatever it was I did to deserve someone like you in my life.
When I left for college, I was terrified. I feared that if I left for somewhere 270 miles away, then you would drift away from me, like so many had in the past. But when I come home from school and I see you, and we joke around like nothing ever changed, I know that we’ll always be best friends.
Because you are my listener. You’re someone I know I can go to whenever I need to talk to someone, or I need someone to cheer me up. You are the rarest breed of human I have had the pleasure of knowing.
We have gone through thick and thin, love and heartbreak, constant and change. And although we disagree, nothing has ever come close to breaking up our friendship. You are the most important thing to ever happen to me.
I am who I am today because I have you there with me, and you are the bravest person I know, just for being who you are. I admire you so much. You’re the type of person I want to be. You’re talented, passionate, intelligent, funny, clever, compassionate, courageous… I could go on and on.
No words can go into how much our friendship means to me, because you have been, and always will be there. And I treasure that more than anything.