“Judgemental hypocrites. Focus on your own salvation! Stop worrying about mine.”
By Mingjie Zhai
“A Woman’s Body”
Fiction. Based on a True Oversexualized Body.
This journal entry is inspired by true events. Some of the characters, names, businesses, incidents, and certain locations and events have been fictionalized for dramatic purposes. Any similarity to the name, character, or history of any person is entirely coincidental and unintentional.
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I wore a little black dress last year to a college party.
It showed a lot of cleavage.
Three men catcalled me.
One even had the audacity to
put his hands on my waist.
I pushed him.
He told me I was a tease.
“With your big tits calling me.”
“Aren’t you going to let me touch them?”
“Can I take a photo with them?”
I wish it were just men though.
I went out to the club with some friends.
With a skin-tight dress.
One of my friends said I looked like a slut.
I didn’t take it personally honestly,
she looked sluttier than me after all.
But see? That’s my point.
Why do our clothes make us look like anything at all?
Our bodies have been sexualized
My father and my mother
both have nipples.
Yet my mothers give sexual desire.
My fathers? Nothing.
He can show them off.
He can enter almost anywhere without a shirt.
How dare I go out without a bra though.
Even if my shirt covers me
my pointy nipples call men.
My cleavage arouses them,
and makes them think they have my attention.
flat or not is not yours to judge.
I can wear as many crop tops as I want.
Does it bother you?
it’s really that easy.
Or really my Latina ass.
It’s what they call it.
We’re known to have big hips and a bigger butt.
But honestly, just another sick stereotype.
My ass is not yours to speak of.
However tight I wear my jeans
or however short I wear my shorts,
it does not concern you.
Just because a cheek may be coming out
it does not give you permission to
touch or grab.
Today alone I’ve seen
three shirtless men on my social media.
Some of them sensually posing in bed.
When I posted a bikini shot of my new swimsuit,
at the beach enjoying some fresh air
my photo was taken off.
Supposedly it had nudity?
I hadn’t realized a little nipple was showing.
Do you know censorship of the human body
perpetuates rape culture?
Why does a woman’s body,
the body from where we come
become such a sexualized taboo.
It is just a body.
A body that is not yours to comment on.